Your Best Life


I'm so excited to have you on this journey with me to improve our lives every day 1% at a time. We deserve the best life, and we are going to claim it! ❤️

Background About Me

Most of you know me through my blog,, so you know some things about me. You can click on the "about me" link if you want to know more. I hope that my emails and private FB group, Your Best Self, are more personal (Please join.). This is when we get to really know each other and grow together.

Here is my background at a deeper level. I was physically abused as a child. I didn't receive much love, support, or comfort in my home. My mother remarried five times. I had a bit of a difficult childhood (along with my four sisters). I remember thinking that life had to be better than the hell I was living in. (I'm not one to curse, so excuse me for using the word hell. It fit the best.)

I don't want to speak too poorly about my mother. I didn't understand her actions as a child, but as an adult, I have come to sympathize with her. Her parents died when she was eleven years old. She came from a wealthy family in Korea, but her father was diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes. He was in a lot of pain, so he sold everything for drugs to keep him out of pain. He passed away. My grandmother died a year later, but my mother is unsure as to why. My mother had to care for her two younger siblings because many years ago in Korea, you only went to an orphanage if you were five years old or younger. There were five children left behind. My mother's youngest sister was "lucky" enough to be sent to an orphanage. My mother's older brother took off. She hasn't seen him since. My mother cared for her two younger siblings (child 3 and 4) by being a maid and working from house to house with the clothes on her back and her two younger siblings. Therefore, honestly, my mother didn't know how to be a mother. She didn't have the examples nor the education.

Why do I tell you all of this?  
It gives you a glimpse of who I am and who I have become. No matter what circumstance you were raised or have endured, you have the power to make your life better. My mother and step-fathers worked numerous jobs to make ends meet. My older sisters joined gangs and ran away from home numerous times. 

I saw all of this as a young child and knew I needed a way out. For me, school was my way out of this poor life. My high school counselor told me I wasn't good enough for college. Her exact words were, "College isn't for everyone. Get a vocation." Fast forward seventeen years after high school.

I have a PhD in Nursing! What???? I claimed my future, and no one was going to stop me or get in my way.

None of us are perfect. I accomplished one big goal of mine. There are many areas in my life that I want to continue to improve and work toward better. A better me. I want you to join me in this journey. I promise that you will be a better you too.
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First Challenge

I'm reading The 1% Solution for Work and Life book by Tom Connellan. I love to read by the way (both fiction and non-fiction). Words = Knowledge
This book talks about that the average difference between the first and fourth place person in the Olympics is usually less than 1%!
In the book, it states in a conversation between two people, "Ken, you will never be an Olympian. I will never be an Olympian. These kids will probably never be Olympians." (referring to a child soccer team) "The real issue for those of us  who aren't going to be Olympians- or the next Bill Gates, Wayne Gretzky, Oprah, Warren Buffet, Bobby Fischer, Lebron James, or Mozart- is this: What does that 1 percent mean for us?"

Here are 5 key factors related to the 1% theory:

  1. The difference between exceptional and exceptionally exceptional = 1 percent.
  2. You can't be 100 percent better than everyone else, but you can be 1 percent better at hundreds of things.
  3. You may not win all the time, but you can have a winner's heart if you do something better today than you did yesterday.
  4. Not everyone can be great, but everyone can be better than they are right now.
  5. Aim to be swifter, higher, stronger - not swiftest, highest, strongest.

My challenge (FINALLY!)
Pick one or two areas in your life that you want to be 1% better at today than you were yesterday.

  1. List three specific things you are going to work on to get there.
  2. You can post in the private FB group any updates. I'll mingle in the group as well.
  3. I will give an update in my weekly newsletter.
  4. Please invite any of your friends to my email list (or for the newsletter and ask them to join the private FB group. I left it open where each member can invite anyone. 
I believe there is power when you try and do things with like-minded people. You motivate and uplift each other. Cheer each other on. I think that is how life should be. We are happy for the successes of those around us. Trust me. It brings success to you as well. There is enough success to go around.

My Goals

Here are my two goals.

  1. Work on querying literary agents.                                                                Here is a little background on where I am at right now in the publishing world. I'll give more detail later. This email is already a book! 😳 My first YA book is on healing from child abuse, and I use a "magical" metaphor. My second YA book is on human trafficking and showing the healing process through art. I had a literary agent who I had to let go last week. Basically, his wife read my second book (yes his wife), and he never did the three months we were together. We were going to pitch the book out, but I didn't feel comfortable without him reading it. He also couldn't answer several of my questions. Therefore, I chose to find another literary agent. I'm very selective this time. I want someone who has the same vision as I have for my books. This week, I am sending a pitch for the Las Vegas Writer's Conference I will attend in April. I will also "cold" query via email. My goal is to make my pitch 1% better than it was last time! 😁 (3 things = work on pitch, query to LV conference, cold queries)
  2. Watch soccer with hubby.                               This may seem like a "huh?" goal. 😂 I am very good about giving my children undivided attention. I am not so good about giving hubby undivided attention. I believe we need to have balance in our lives. Nurturing your relationship with your significant other is important. My husband, K.C., loves soccer. Liverpool is his favorite team. He always wants me to watch games with him, but I'm always "too busy." Therefore, to be 1% better in this area, I plan to set aside one hour on Saturday to watch soccer with him. (Okay, so I don't have 3 things. I need to do this one thing first! Ha ha)
I'll keep you posted on how things go. I may tweak my goals week to week. Please let me know how you are doing with your being 1% better goals. It can be in any area: organizing your house, getting a job, blogging, writing, working, parenting, spiritually, etc. We can always improve in every area of our lives.

P.S. I'm not picky about anyone's religion. I just think if you are trying to be a better person in your religion, then be 1% better today than yesterday.

Keep Reading

Books I'm Reading and Blog Posts

Here are a couple of books I'm reading (along with the 1% Solution).

  1. The Way I Used to Be by Amber Smith (About teen rape, healing, and becoming strong)
  2. Miss Peregrine's Home for Peculiar Children by Ransom Riggs (Fun fantasy book about peculiar children)
(I'm not getting paid on any links. Just sharing some good reads.)

In case you missed last week's blog posts, here they are:
  1. Happy St. Patrick's Day and the Meaning Behind Good Luck (or Hard Work?)
  2. The Blue Sky Tag (a little more about me based on questions from another blogger)
  3. Balance: You'll Never Regret Spending Time with Your Loved Ones (This is one of my favorites.)
THANK YOU FOR READING! I can't wait to get to know more of you all!  ❤️ Ipuna
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