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Hi Everyone,

Mandy and Jonathan Chew here! We hope you are all doing well! 🙏

As the holidays approach we hope you and your loved ones find creative ways to spend time together while staying as safe and healthy as possible.

We are looking forward to the many virtual celebrations to come in the next few months! This has been a very challenging year for us as we know it has for many of you as well. We continue to try to take life day by day and are so grateful for all the positive resources and people in our lives!

Thank you for being our Positopians ❤️

For those of you based in the states (or who celebrate it)... 👻Happy Halloween! 🎃

- M&J

P.S. - For those of you just joining, welcome to this edition of our monthly newsletter, The Positopian, where every month, we share positive news, fiction, resources, & insights to help you become the best version of yourself! 

“A whole life is a search for beauty. But, when the beauty is found inside, the search ends and a beautiful journey begins.”
— Harshit Walia

Thanks to our wise Positopian: cousin Lianne, for sharing this great thought with us! 🙌
Maybe we shouldn't pursue happiness, but health instead —

Don't try too hard to be happy, study warns

Written by Maria Cohut, Medical News Today

All that anybody really wants is happiness. We may spend every waking hour working hard at achieving the goals that we hope will make us happy. But does it really have the effect that we hope it will?

(Thanks again to Lianne for sharing this with us!)

The Misguided Desire of Wanting Our Kids to be Happy

By Robin Berman, M.D.,
Unhappiness: The Key to Raising Happy Kids

When I give parenting lectures around the country, I always ask the audience: “What do you want most for your children?” I have yet to hear the answer that I am looking for. The near-universal response I do get is: “I just want my kids to be happy.”

Sorry, but trying to make our kids happy all of the time has been a bust. It’s created a bunch of fragile and unhappy kids and young adults. Think of Veruca Salt in Charlie and The Chocolate Factory and her famous refrain, “I want it now, Daddy!” as a cautionary tale. The faster her dad tap danced to please her, the more her tantrums escalated.

Here’s the secret: To have happy kids, you must teach them to tolerate being unhappy. I would tell Veruca’s dad he would have been better served to teach her to work through her big emotions—feelings like anger, frustration, and, yes, disappointment—rather than trying to protect her from them.
Watch what happens as children from low income families are faced with a decision.

You Will Regret These Choices in 10 Years

By Thomas Oppong
Life is short. Youth is finite. You have every opportunity to make the most of the life you have right now. Your choices today will determine the number of regrets you will have in the next ten years.

The most common regrets you have probably read about are: missed opportunities, not spending time more prudently, accomplishing more, not doing meaningful work, procrastinating, not forming better habits, not mastering another language or skill, getting into bad relationships, or making mistakes in a past relationship.

Regrets suck. But today, right now, you can do something about your choices to limit your regrets in future.
Take some time to think —
Remember that we're always changing, especially in these times. Be kind to yourself!
Here's to a safe and happy month ahead!
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Always Remember, "Chews" Joy :)
Mandy & Jonathan Chew
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