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Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love
by Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A.


I found this book super insightful and useful. Not only does it have self-tests (and partner-tests) to determine your (and your partner's, if you have one) attachment style(s), but it's just an all around really useful concept when navigating romantic relationships. I often get asked for advice on romantic relationships, and this is a concept I already find myself using a lot when helping people determine what might be going on in their relationship (or lack thereof).

Although the book is great, you don't necessarily have to read the entire thing to get the basic concept: there are 3 main attachment styles - Secure, Anxious, and Avoidant.

Those with secure attachment styles (who luckily make up the majority of the population, but not by much) are the best to be in a relationship with. They understand their own value, they know what they want in a partner, and they don't struggle with jealousy/insecurity or commitment issues. Unfortunately, they are hard to find because they get snatched out of the dating pool quickly - and then stay in those relationships for long periods of time.

Those with an anxious attachment style are the ones that are often categorized by society as "needy," "clingy," or "dependent." They are hyper-sensitive to threats to their relationship and crave closeness, intimacy, and reassurance when they sense a potential threat. I like how this book changed my perception of being "dependent" by talking about the word "dependable." We all like to think that we are dependable - that we can be counted on and when someone needs us. So, why are we so opposed to ever being dependent? Sure, it's important for adults to be able to take care of themselves for the most part, but there isn't anything wrong with depending on your partner from time to time.

Those with an avoidant attachment style are those with commitment issues - they pull away when they sense someone is getting too close. They may struggle with intimacy and have an unhealthy relationship with sex. These people are the most likely to cheat on their partners. Since they are slow to commit to monogamous relationships, these are the people that are most abundant in the dating pool. Often their relationships end after a short time or they date multiple people simultaneously.

Secure people can pretty much be successful in a relationship with any attachment style, but a relationship between an avoidant person and an anxious person is almost always a recipe for disaster. The more intimacy the anxious partner needs, the more the avoidant partner pulls away and needs space, which causes the anxious partner to sense a greater threat to the relationship, causing them to desire even more closeness and reassurance, and the awful cycle continues until the relationship (usually) implodes.

Just by simply being able to identify your attachment style and the ones of those around you, you will be better able to navigate romantic relationships and have the outcome you most desire.

Check out my live Youtube review and summary at https://youtu.be/zMYIjxd9B28
Money: Master the Game - 7 Simple Steps to Financial Freedom 
by Tony Robbins


Whew, this is a DENSELY packed book! But, I love that! Sure, it has a lot more anecdotal information in it than I prefer, but even despite all that, it has SO MUCH great information about money, finance, and wealth. It might feel like trying to sip some water from a fire hydrant for those of you new to the fascinating world of finance, but if you just take your time and work through it at your own pace, I think you'll find it to be invaluable! It took me probably 6 months to get through, and I love to read and take in information! So, be patient with yourself, but stick with it!

One of the main takeaways I got from this book is the importance of asset allocation. Before reading this, I had 100% of my investments in the stock market. I have since been working on diversifying into different types of investments, which should ultimately make my portfolio more hearty and resilient.

I encourage you to grab this book and work through it, it could change your life - and most importantly, your future.

Check out my live review and summary on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/Dk92LyLx-gU
Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength
by Roy F. Baumeister and John Tierney

 
I really enjoyed this book. I found a lot of interesting information that was practical and useful for my life - so it's a winner!

Here are some of the highlights:
  1. Willpower is the energy used to control yourself (behaviors, thoughts, and feelings) and to make decisions.
  2. Each person has a finite amount of willpower each day, and it gets used every time we exert control over ourselves or make ANY decisions.
  3. The lower your glucose level, the lower your willpower.
  4. Hormones and menstruation affect your willpower.
  5. You can increase the amount of willpower you can use each day by practicing using it - for instance, start "watching your mouth" - practice not swearing. Anything you do that uses willpower regularly helps to strengthen that "willpower muscle," so to speak.
  6. Conserve your energy by planning ahead! Don't leave yourself having to make hundreds of decisions before dinner. Plan out what you're going to wear, what you're going to eat, etc. Then, all you have to do is execute. Saves energy for later in the day, when you might be subject to things like late night snack temptations. The more willpower we conserve, the more control we can exert over ourselves even late into the night.
  7. Bright line rules - clear, concrete, easy to understand and remember rules. No ambiguity like "I'm going to cut back on _______." Something clear like - "When we go out to eat, I'm only going to order from the salads section of the menu." This is double effective because it keeps you from having decision fatigue from all of the options.
  8. The "self-esteem movement" did not have the intended outcome. It turns out that self control > self-esteem. Some studies found that Asian American children seemed to outperform children from other ethnic backgrounds academically - one theory is that their culture puts high value on self-control. They also hold very high expectations of their children, which other studies have found actually seems to help them perform better! Parental expectations regarding academics are correlated to how well the student performs - higher expectations have a positive correlation with higher grades. Turns out it doesn't help your kid to give them a trophy and tell them they did great when they didn't. You don't have to tell them they sucked, but you certainly don't need to lie and tell them they did awesome. Be genuine (and kind) with your speech.
Check out my live Youtube review and summary at https://youtu.be/tGhasytFBdU
City of Endless Night
by M.M. Hastings


I was pleasantly surprised by this book! Usually, I don't read much fiction, but the editor reached out and offered me a free copy, so I obliged. I'm so glad I did! I love fiction about dystopian societies. I don't want to spoil it for anyone who may read it, but if you like books along the same idea of George Orwell's 1984, you'll probably like this one too! It's about a dystopian walled city of Berlin, Germany. One of the fascinating things about this book is that it was written before World War 2, and they talk about the German value of eugenics! It's always a bit awe-inspiring when an author is able to tell the future in some way, although luckily the Germany of the real world never quite reached the extreme level of loss of identity that is demonstrated in this book. It's a real page-turner, consistently making the reader wonder "What happens next?" Personally, I wished the ending had been more thoroughly fleshed out, it felt like it ended more abruptly than I would have liked, but all in all a great fiction read!

Check out my live book review and summary on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/rwagXQkC7VQ
8 Great Smarts: Discover and Nurture Your Child's Intelligences
by Kathy Koch, PhD


This book could have been substantially improved if the evangelical Christian theme was left for a different book.

Aside from the religious rhetoric, I generally liked this book. I like lists and exploring different ways to describe and categorize people. In this book, she explores 8 different kinds of intelligence and explains what types of activities engage that "smart" - as well as what types of behaviors or strengths might be present in people with that particular "smart." I like how she makes it kid-friendly, so it's very simple and concrete. The terms used are easy to understand and explain.
  1. Word smart - enjoys language; may like to read, write, and/or speak; likely to thrive in school as this is a highly valued "smart" in academia
  2. Logic smart - asks lots of questions; favorite question is "why?"; searches for the reason behind things; another smart that is highly valued academically - might do well in school, if the REASON they should apply themselves there is convincing enough ;)
  3. Body smart - likes to be moving; may have difficulty keeping still; maybe athletic; might enjoy a lot of different physical activities
  4. Music smart - may play instruments; may enjoy listening to or studying music; music may help them to think
  5. Picture smart - "artistic"; enjoys colors and aesthetics; may enjoy drawing, painting, or any other expressive activity
  6. Nature smart - "outdoorsy"; may have an interest in patterns; maybe a love for animals; getting outside may help them think; might enjoy hiking
  7. People smart - ability to "read a room" - picks up on body language and social cues; strong communication skills; "thinks out loud" - enjoys bouncing ideas off of other people; being around people may help them think
  8. Self smart - introspective; understands their personal strengths and weaknesses; relates their life experiences to their thinking - may prefer thinking alone and could perhaps be introverted
It's easy to see where different smarts can overlap - for instance dancing incorporates body and music smart; hiking both body and nature smart. Which of the smarts are strongest for you? Which ones haven't you explored much in your life? What are you waiting for? This is the year of experimentation!

Check out my live book review and summary on Youtube here: https://youtu.be/9ZIlwC0uzIQ
The Romantic Manifesto
by Ayn Rand


I love me some Ayn Rand, don't get me wrong. From her impressive fiction works to her thought-provoking nonfiction, she is hands-down my favorite author of all time. I often wish we had been contemporaries so I could have spoken with her and basked in the greatness of her mind. However, I'm not much interested in art. I wanted to read this anyway, as I like to read anything by Rand, but I should have trusted my instinct. It all felt a bit...pretentious. So, it's not my jam, but maybe it would be yours!

I'd love to know what her thoughts would be on today's music, haha!!

If you want to check out my Youtube live review and summary of this one, you can find it at https://youtu.be/KPNvrR_u2SE
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