Heya, did you see that epic movie clip? Heartwarming, isn’t it? And, he gets the job in his Pursuit of Happyness. Will - That was brilliant! I love you!
Guess why did they end up liking him? His high EQ.
Not very far from Hollywood, our own gangsta, Bollywood’s Munnabhai from Lage Raho Munnabhai got all the love and eventual success because of his Mt. Everest’s size EQ. And, my all-time adorable Sikh, Harpreet Singh from Rocket Singh becomes tremendously successful because of his ability to connect with people.
In the business world, it also takes high EQ to be an effective leader. No wonder the most accomplished CEOs of our times - Jeff Bezos, Ursula Burns, and Warren Buffet are among the Top 10 Emotionally-Intelligent Fortune 500 CEOs.
Were they born with the EQ silver spoon? Or is it something you can ask Santa as your Christmas gift?
Well, research reveals they weren’t from planet Krypton. They were mere mortals like us. In the very famous words of Steve Jobs - Everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you.
Okay, I lie. Maybe some are smarter than us. Elon, I love you!
They have four EQ traits in oodles that Daniel Goleman outlined- self-awareness, self-management, social awareness and relationship management.
Hmm...EQ! Hit me up!
So what exactly is emotional intelligence?
Aristotle once said that educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all.
EQ is the ability to recognize, understand and manage our emotions while keeping a check on others emotions as well. A person who is emotionally intelligent maximizes his chance for success in life.
Why is EQ important at work?
We often associate intelligence, ambition, determination, and vision with leadership. We are trained to use IQ instead of EQ.
Wrong. Wrong. Wrong. Okay, maybe, not a whole lot. But, still W.R.O.N.G.
What is the use of high IQ if you do not understand people who you work with? If you are still not convinced, read about the significance of EQ at workplace here. In fact, there are a whole lot of reasons listed here if you are wondering why you're not getting ahead at work despite your high IQ skills.
How do I know if I got it?
Unlike IQ, there isn’t a definitive metric to measure EQ. If you are intrigued, here is some introspection you can do with the help of - A clever flowchart to help you identify your EI and then some general guidance on how emotionally intelligent are you. And once you are certain that you got just the right amount of EQ, you can also help others boost their emotional intelligence.
How can I improve my EQ?
I think it could start with understanding all about EQ by reading Daniel Goleman’s book about Emotional Intelligence. If you wanted some quick practical advice then you can read Six Ways to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence and How to improve your emotional intelligence
Phew...that’s a whole lotta emotional quotient babble but please don’t get carried away. Even Daniel Goleman, the man who wrote the book himself says that “EI includes a broad spectrum of competencies, and no leader is A+ across the board — even the best have room to improve.”
In fact, he also feels that people have taken the concept too far.
Wish this new year brings you happiness, laughter, and love.
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